Clearly, I'm married and no longer have to worry about these things (holluh!) but I have many single friends, and one of my girlfriends and I had a great discussion. On dating and texting. And what a nightmare it is.
She told me that she was really interested in this guy. That they hit it off emailing after meeting on an online dating site. And that they had exchanged numbers and were now texting regularly.
"So, he just asked me out about an hour ago, and we're going to meet for the first time!" She said to me. "Awesome! So he finally got the gumption to call you and ask you out?!" I replied. "Oh, ummm... No. He texted me to ask me out." To which I told her she should text him back and ask him to marry her. And be completely serious about it.
I mean, really? Are you kidding me?!
Guys. Guys guys guys. I fully support dating sites (I belonged to match.com in my mid-20's) and I'm a big texter (just ask Making Mrs M or Meet at the Barre). But if anyone had text me in my single days and asked me on a date, they'd have gotten a big fat N to the O.
Here's what: We can meet online and flirt and text. But I'm not going to meet you before actually talking to you. Don't hide behind a screen, gentlemen! When you want to take a woman out, give her a call. Ask her out. And find out if she's more comfortable meeting you there or having you pick her up, and happily oblige to what she's most comfortable doing.
Call me old fashioned. Call me crazy. But look who's happily married...
For the record, I've never gone on a date with someone who didn't call to set it. There was ALWAYS a phone call. Always. Asking someone out is a personal thing, that deserves a phone call or in-person conversation. Gentlemen, pick up the phone. No, not to shoot her a text. Call her like a man. And ladies, set your standards and stick to them. Don't accept a text just because he's "really cute and funny!"
Because next thing you know, he will ask you to marry him via text.
|Do you want this to be your future? Never accept a date via text. Never.|