Most my faithful readers know Henry has torticollis, and needed a helmet to reshape his head, and is undergoing months of physical therapy.
Well, we're still going. Twice a week. Most torticollis babies go for three to five months. We're starting month six right now, and aren't even beginning to have the "let's wrap this up" conversation.
What I didn't know when Lil' H got diagnosed with torticollis is that it's so much more than a tight muscle in his neck. It affects his development. Significantly. And because of that, I have an 11 month old who doesn't crawl. He doesn't sit up from a laying down position and worse yet? He doesn't even try. His shoulder muscles are still so tight, he won't grab an object with both hands. He won't hold his own bottle, sippy cup or food pouches.
Read: My 11 month old functions more like a six month old.
He eats everything under the sun, "pulls up" on furniture, "scoots" across the floor on his butt, throws a ball to our dogs, says "Dad, Mom, hi (with a wave!), and dogs" to the right people/critters. He's not stupid, or slow, or "special." He's Henry.
But I had to drop out of most my mom groups. It was too miserable to sit there at lunch and listen to all the milestones their babies, many younger than Henry, were hitting while my baby wasn't even close. It felt like they were bragging about their kids (with good reason!) and I had nothing to brag about.
Except that people would stop to tell me how handsome a baby Henry is, and not mention or even look at the other babies. That always made me feel good. Real good. In a dirty, competitive kind of way.
So for all you mama's whose kiddos don't do what they're supposed to do when they're supposed to do it, cheers to you. You're patient. You're loving. Your child will get there. Find other mom's who's kids aren't as perfect as the babies found in "mommy groups" and get together often. Know that your baby will be ok. She or he will do her/his own thing at their own pace and their own time.