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Friday, October 16, 2015

5 Great Things About Being In Your 30's

It's my birthday! Today. October 16. I'm 31. I have to say that last year it was a bit rough to leave those elusive 20's behind and join the big girls club, but it's been jaw dropping what a difference joining this decade makes! If you're coming up on your dirty 30's, or simply dislike getting older, fear not! I've got 5 great things about being in your 30's for your Friday reading pleasure.


1) Friendships change for the better. Yes, some people will leave your life. Let them. After you get to be a certain age, those people don't matter. They weren't meant to be in your life anyway. And the friends that do stick around? Your friendship with them will be THAT much better!

2) Your "Give a F" garden stops growing. I can honestly say that I give zero you-know-whats about what people think of me. Zero. You like me? Let's hang out! You don't? Don't let the door hit you on the way out! When I was in my 20's I felt the constant need for approval from others. I sought it out and was let down if I didn't get it. Now that I'm older, I've found approval and acceptance within my self. It is SO freeing! And I have so much more mental space to be who I truly am.

3) You learn that you get the most by giving. When I was in my 20's, if you didn't like what I was doing or what was on my agenda, I had no qualms about peacing out on you. Which was fun, because I did exactly what I wanted to do (hello, moving across the country 3 times in 5 years!) and was a selfish mess, which is what you should be in your 20's. But as you get older, you realize that's not the most fulfilling way to live. You advance to a place where you find JOY in giving to others, which is a double-whammy of awesome: you make them happy and you're happy too!

While I'm talking mostly about giving time, patience and grace to your loved ones, presents never hurt, right?! In the spirit of giving AND my birthday, you definitely need to check out this amazing Tarte palette and Sephora giveaway I have running on Instagram through Sunday! #shamelessplug
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4) You develop your own sense of style. I read WAY to many fashion magazines when I was in my 20's, which resulted in my always trying to "be" someone else - someone far more trendy than I care to be! (Also, see number 2 about needing others' approval and no longer giving F's...) Now that I'm in my 30's, I've developed my own sense of style that's all about classic clean lines and quality pieces. I know what looks good on me AND what I'm comfortable in, and that shows in my confidence as I wear my personal style out and about.
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5) You know yourself better. I've spent over three decades hanging out with me. By now, I know what I like and what I don't. And I'm totally, completely ok with NOT doing the things I don't like, even if all my friends are doing it. For example, Indian food makes my stomach turn. So if there was a girls night at an Indian joint, I'd have no problem saying, "Catch ya next time girls!" When you're older, there is no such thing as FOMO ("fear of missing out" for those who don't speak millennial talk - I know my husband just read that and though "WTF?" so that definition is for his Gen X self. Love you honey!) In fact, that's the first time I've ever used that dumb word, and it will be my last. Man, am I glad I'm too old for that nonsense!

Linking up with Amanda, Karli, April and H54F to share in the Friday Favorites goodness!

See, not everything about getting older is a bad thing. Some things are actually quite fun, and others are completely freeing of the judgement and need to fit in that you felt in your teens and 20's. The best part is, these are only 5 great things about being in your 30's - there are many, many more!
 

23 comments:

  1. Fabulous post, lady! I agree that the 30s are all about finding yourself and being comfortable with who you are in your own skin. Drama queens and negative nancys have no place in my life anymore so I took steps to remove the bad and am infinitely happier because of MY choice. I also agree with your style point, too. I admit I was never on the trendy train, but now I know what pieces work for me and add my own sense of flair to outfits. I don't like just copying what other people wear, I find something I like and put a Pinky twist on it and it works for me. My FOMO has totally taken a back seat to living in the now and doing what I want as well. You only get one life, why spend it trying to please everyone but yourself? [you and I are on the same no Indian food train, btw]!

    Happy, happy, happy birthday!!! I hope you have a fabulous day!!!! <3

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  2. YES YES YES to all these things! I can already feel them developing (I'm 29) and have such anticipation (the good kind) for my 30s. HAPPY HAPPY birthday beautiful girlie!!

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  3. Happy birthday!!! I'm 28 and really connect with everything in this post. I was just reflecting on my age and where I am in my life the other day; I am at my best now. I'm more secure and stable with who I am.

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  4. I love that you acknowledge being selfish in your twenties! Love this round-up!

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  5. Firstly... happy birthday!! Secondly... yes, yes .. yes and yes! Great post... so true. I am almost 31 and the best thing about being older is finding yourself and being comfortable... its like you said... so freeing!

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  6. Happy birthday!!! I'm 32 and can completely relate to this fantastic list (especially about caring so much less about what people think...life is too short!)

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  7. so, I totally already feel a lot of these things are true now, and I'm only 28. Clearly, my 30s are gonna rock ;)
    happy birthday gorgeous!

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  8. Woohoo!
    HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAYYYYY. Super happy we're friends, btw.
    This makes me not dread my 30s so much. I'm about to start the tail end of my 20s. I know, I know.

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  9. Happy birthday Paige!!! Yes! #1 and #5 are spot on! I'm about to be 33 but I totally feel 25 :-p

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  10. I couldn't agree MORE with this list! Especially the friendships. I think a lot of that can change around people's weddings (some people's TRUE colors come out and sometimes it's not for the better), so in your 30s, you've worked through that and know who the true friends are. Not the petty people who are all about themselves or love drama. Don't need it, no thank you.
    Love my style as I'm in my 30s. I definitely am not the person who wears leopard dresses out to party...I spend my money on pieces that are quality, and comfortable, that Ill get a lot of use out of.
    Love your list!

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    1. And a BIG HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Hope you have a fabulous weekend celebrating!!

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  11. Happy birthday!!!! And agreeing with this list! I'm a smidge younger than you, but coming around to most these concepts on my own.

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  12. Happy birthday!! Enjoy your weekend!!
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  13. Yay! Happy Birthday girl!!!!!! I love my 30s so far. I was totally insecure in my 20s and agree with you on wanting everyone's approval. I've finally come to accept who I am and my style and I'm good with it. I may not always be "on trend" but I'm totally okay with that.
    I hope you get out to celebrate tonight!!

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  14. Glad to hear it! I am 29 and most of my friends are turning 30 (I still have a while) this year. I'm hoping things get better and not worse as we get older, right? :)

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  15. Happy Birthday!! Great post!! I'm about to hit the mid way point in the dirty thirties this month (ACK!!). THese are all so so true!

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  16. Happy Birthday! This is a great post! I'm turning 33 next month and agree with all of these. I also don't give a F what people think of me! It's so liberating :)

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  17. I agree so much! I will be 33 this year and I have finally felt comfortable and confident in myself. Like you said I don't give an F what anyone thinks anymore. As long as I'm happy, that's all that matter to me!

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  18. YES! ALl of these things.. I am 36 and I feel better than ever! Happy Birthday!!

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  19. Happy birthday, I hope your having a great one! I'm turning 31 in December & I'm agreeing with everything you said, hah. I like the sense of style in coming across now, it's comfy, hah.

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  20. Happy Birthday...This is such a nice post and something I actually needed to read! Beth, WiseMommies

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  21. Happy Birthday! Aging gracefully is a beautiful thing. Great Blog post

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  22. Happy Birthday! You and I have the exact same birth date, October 16, 1984! Fabulous day to have been born, isn't it? I was born in Southern California, you?

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